Are You a Bridezilla?
How to Tell If You Are a Bridezilla
Find Out What Your Friends Won't Tell You

Did someone call you Bridezilla today? Wouldn't you rather be a happy bride, a woman who can enjoy every moment of this fabulous wedding experience? A Bridezilla is a bride who becomes obsessive about her wedding plans. She is difficult and demanding. Sometimes she becomes bossy and insulting to get her own way. Bridezilla will have temper tantrums, rages and rants. Believe it or not, deep down the Bridezilla is a narcissist, who uses the wedding as an excuse to vent her egotism, vanity and selfishness. If you are showing the first symptoms of the Bridezilla syndrome, or you know someone on her way to becoming Bridezilla, there's a cure for it.

• How Do You Know if You Are a Bridezilla?
  Bridezilla frets over the wedding day to the exclusion of everyone and everything else. The Bridezilla makes unreasonable demands of everyone. Did you request that the bridesmaids have the same hair style, and request that they change their hair colors to match each other? Did you send your bridesmaids to the tanning salon, so that skin tones will look good in photographs? Did you ask the full-figured bridesmaid to lose some weight? Do you insist on a horse-and-carriage for a wedding downtown? Are you micromanaging every detail of the bridal shower? Is your wedding motto "Who cares what it costs"? The Bridezilla just might be you.
  
  
• What Makes a Happy Bride?
  The happy bride lives in the present moment each day. She knows that the pre-wedding period is a time to share with loved ones and savor each moment of the engagement. She tames her pre-wedding jitters by living in the present moment. The happy bride has more fun.
  
  When you decide to focus on the present moment, you actually experiencing that moment more completely. Pay attention to your thoughts. The instant you realize your mind has drifted to the wedding day means that you are starting to pay attention to your thoughts.
  
  
• Bridezilla Is Consumed With Multi-Tasking
  The happy bride takes one thing at a time. She avoids multi-tasking during the wedding planning. You want to keep these moments fresh. Nothing kills the moment faster than texting your bridesmaids, listening to wedding music, and programming the GPS while driving down the highway. Fill the moments of your engagement with one task at a time.
  
  
• Bridezilla Can't Relax
  Practice relaxing. When the responsibilities of planning your wedding become overwhelming, practice relaxing. Try a moment of deep breathing, a hot relaxing bath, meditation, yoga or a walk in the woods. Lay back in the grass and watch the clouds. As the clouds float by, so do all things pass. Learning to live in the moment takes practice.
  
  Listen to your body. When your mind is wild with the stress of planning a wedding, your body reacts to stress, too. The knot in your stomach, the nervous jitters, the panic attack, are the symptoms of pre-wedding stress. Calm yourself down with a romp with your pet, a good talk with someone who understands, or just take a time-out for yourself. Give yourself a break from the wedding.
  
  
• Bridezilla Is Over-Scheduled
  Edit down your to-do list for the wedding preparations. Have you over-scheduled yourself with meetings, chores and activities? Cut back on your expectations. Don't aim for perfection but accept the little imperfections that are likely. Be flexible in your choices, so that if your favorite flower, lilacs, is not in season, you can be happy with lavender hydrangeas. Allow plenty of time before the wedding for shopping and dress fittings, so you can be relaxed as you make your decisions.
  
  You won't get everything on your list done in time for the wedding. No one ever does. Shorten your to-do list so that it doesn't sap your energy. You don't want to be trapped in a mental hurricane.
  
  
• Bridezilla Demands Too Much From Others
  Don't expect too much of other people. Although your wedding is the biggest event in your life, remember that other people are not as involved as you are. Is your prospective mother-in-law avoiding your calls? Are you having a battle with the printer? Do you expect your bridesmaids to be at your beck and call 24/7? That's how a Bridezilla takes over.
  
  To be a happy bride instead of a Bridezilla, be patient as you live in the moment. Each step carries you closer to the wedding, Whether the moment is difficult or joyful, it will pass like a breath, to be followed by the next moment and the next.
  
  I wish you a happy day full of romance and memories as you plan your wedding.
  
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